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If you are sincere about your relationship and feel like the connection you made with your ificant other is more than just a "contextual relationship," you may be discussing taking things long-term, or one of you moving permanently to the other's home country.

Especially at the beginning of an overseas adventure, it can be easy to make a new fling your everything immediately.

Don't Keep it up After You Leave if You're Not Sincere If you don't have real intentions of turning your fling into a long-term relationship, then it's better to leave off as good friends when you separate. At this stage, your relationship has an expiration date, so make sure your new squeeze understands you'll be leaving at some point -- and probably forever. Don't Ever Insult Their Country Remember, if he's Greek, he can speak bluntly about the country's recent economic jeopardy.

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Don't Forget They Might Be Exoticizing You, Too This is might be cynical, but if you're a blonde-haired, blue-eyed girl living in Kenya or China, the reality is that your beau is probably thinking it's pretty darn cool that he's snagged a foreigner to parade with him around town. Be Realistic About Continuing Your Relationship If you are sincere about your relationship and feel like the connection you made with your ificant other is more than just a "contextual relationship," you may be discussing taking things long-term, or one of you moving permanently to the other's home country.

However, you have to be cognizant of the fact that you probably don't know your partner's country as well as they do, and you wouldn't want someone else to be overly opinionated about sensitive topics from your country after a relatively brief visit. Remember, if he's Greek, he can speak bluntly about the country's recent economic jeopardy.

No matter what ultimately happened with any of my "foreign affairs," I tell myself that I would rather have those memories than not have them at all. If this is your case, think long and hard about committing to big life changes with them before taking the leap.

10 things not to do when dating locals abroad

Although dating while living abroad can be a precarious game of wearing your heart on your sleeve, my bottom line is to never fear starting something because the end is uncertain. Even if they speak perfect English, speaking a basic level of your partner's native language will help you two feel closer and show your genuine interest in the local culture.

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I've even had guys ask me, "Why should I even go out with you? Therefore, the relationship you developed was a product unique to that experience, which realistically might not translate well into your life beyond that particular place and time.

Speak spanish on day one.

You wouldn't want someone to use you just for English practice, so think about how you would feel if it was the other way around. If you don't have real intentions of turning your fling into a long-term relationship, then it's better to leave off as good friends when you separate.

Basically, it requires a lot of communication and a heavy dose of cognitive dissonance to make it enjoyable for either party.

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Whether you're looking for a new passport or just wanting to have a short fling, make sure you're both on the same from the start. However you see the relationship going, just make sure to open up this conversation as early as possible.

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This is also highly cynical yet comes from first-hand experiencebut if you were working for a year in a rural Namibian village and fell madly in love with a local from a nearby town, it was more than likely the result of the isolation and foreignness of the place providing you with a limited selection of people to become close to. If you don't have real intentions of turning your fling into a long-term relationship, then it's better to leave it off as good friends when you separate. If you're open to something long-term, let that be known too so they don't think you wouldn't be willing to put the hard work in for a real relationship if it became serious.

Never Fear Starting Something Because the End is Uncertain Although dating while living abroad can be a precarious game of wearing your heart on your sleeve, my bottom line is to never fear starting something because the end is uncertain.

You're just temporary.

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However, anyone will likely be offended if a foreigner with less lifetime-long knowledge about the country and culture makes the same criticisms. Don't Forget to Establish Clear Expectations Whether you're looking for a new passport or just wanting to have a short fling, make sure you're both on the same from the start. Drawing on my experiences, some very positive and some unfortunately heart-breaking, here is my list of 10 things NOT to do when dating a local abroad -- regardless of how long that romance lasts.

If your new love interest is in it for a long-term thing -- and you're not -- they might feel worse for you letting it go on for so long rather than being up front about it at first. Make sure you have a distinct social circle so if things go south, you aren't alone and having to make a tough choice between all of your new friends or your former love interest. Many things in life are challenging, unknown, or unlikely -- and love is no exception.

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Make sure you're prepared for them and believe the challenge is truly worth it. If she's Mexican, she can speak critically about drug-trafficking. It can be tempting to have a native boyfriend or girlfriend so you have someone to show you around town and teach you the local language, but in the end it's just not nice.

However, the idea of becoming romantically involved with someone who calls home somewhere 5, miles away from my home is extremely counter intuitive.

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Don't Lose Your Own Friend Group Especially at the beginning of an overseas adventure, it can be easy to make a new fling your everything immediately. This is might be cynical, but if you're a blonde-haired, blue-eyed girl living in Kenya or China, the reality is that your beau is probably thinking it's pretty darn cool that he's snagged a foreigner to parade with him around town.

Learning the language will win you big points in most countries, and it will especially work in your favor in a relationship with someone from another country. If you put too much emphasis on your cultural, linguistic, or physical differencesyou will create more distance between you two in the end -- or worse: give off the impression that this relationship is more of a novelty than a genuine connection. In many countries, it improves a person's social status to be seen with a foreigner, so don't eliminate the possibility that your exotic looks, accent, and nationality play a role in your relationship to some extent.

8 things you should do when dating someone from another culture

Ouch, but point well-taken. Make sure the experiences you share are exciting for both of you and that you like who they arenot just their handiness. I've traveled to over 40 countries in the past 5 years, so although my long-term relationship experience is quite limited it's almost Valentine's Day so I'd rather not dwell on that partI still find going out with locals to be one of the most interesting parts of my experiences overseas.

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In any culture, knowing the people around your boyfriend or girlfriend is an essential part of the relationship. You may also find that living in your host country beyond studying, teaching, or volunteering there isn't all it's cracked up to be.

17 sobering truths about dating someone from a different country

If the other person hasn't traveled much, they may have false impressions of what life is like in your home country -- and may be disappointed later. You don't want either of you to be flying across the globe, having long-distance Skype calls, and investing real emotional energy into a relationship that lacks promise for something meaningful now or in the future.

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It doesn't mean you can't engage in debates and learn from one another. Also, his or her family and other close friends may not speak English, so speaking a basic level of the language will help bridge some important cultural and linguistic gaps. You'll likely discover the relationship, while beautiful in its own right, was highly circumstantial and better left as a sweet memory than attempting to translate it into a drastically new situation far from the roots that fostered its initial growth.

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Those people have enhanced my life in countless ways, and some of them continue to do so today as, if not lovers, then wonderful friends. Likewise, it can be just as easy to fall for a friend and not bother to continue to develop a separate social life. No matter how in love the two of you are, these big life changes will test your relationship.